Having fear is healthy and a part of life. When I feel fear I know I’m stepping out of my comfort zone and doing something amazing which will aid me in my growth as a human being.
You see, I didn't always have this same relationship with fear. After years of countless self-help books and amazing inspirational virtual mentors, I came to realize everyone who I admired live with the same fears and uncertainty as me! This was so powerful.
When I started this journey of My Spiritual Corner I was very scared no one would want to read my content and I never viewed myself as someone who can articulate my words really well. Throughout my academic life, I was always an average student who performed JUST ENOUGH to pass. Why am I telling you this? It’s because growing up, being raised by tiger Asian parents they never praised me for a job well done but they always belittled my sister and me, saying we weren’t good enough and to try harder otherwise we’d fail miserably in life. Nothing was good enough for the parents except to be a doctor, lawyer, or a business owner of some sort.
You can see, growing up with this conditioning instilled in me from a very young age didn’t set myself up for a very positive subconscious development.
It all comes down to our conditioning as a child. I don’t blame my parents at all as they raised us the best way they knew how as they were immigrants making ends meet in a new country and their parents had taught them in the same manner.
I held fear in my mind at being judged for creating content perceived as bad on social media and how people would find it stupid, these were the thoughts racing through my mind. I was fearful that I didn’t know the right way of how to work with social media, I always envied people who had a large following and wondered how they made it possible. I’ve quickly realized it takes dedication and consistency and truly there isn’t a “ special way “ of making a platform successful whatever that means to you. You just need to stay authentic and create content that’s honest and shine the gifts you’ve been given to the world.
How I overcame these emotions:
As long as I am trying my best at channelling the most authentic content possible, there will be the right audience who will find my work - at the end of the day - I’m creating this information and putting it out into the world so someone who may need it will find it helpful, that’s it, period!
I became less of a perfectionist and I became ok with subpar work. What I mean by this is each time I release work into the world, instead of being so consumed by creating that perfect Youtube video which will never happen as opposed to continuing to release those videos and making them better and better with each posting is wiser then perfection that's delayed or usually the case - never happening
If I want to make an impact in another person’s life, I must be vulnerable and put my heart and soul out there to actually be able to reach people and help someone. All the people I’ve admire started at this same place I find myself now. I cannot compare my chapter 1 to someone’s chapter 20 is a cliche saying people often recite but few actual practices.
The knowledge that fear is my friend and holding this truth in my heart. Fear is a natural human experience and there always will be that feeling no matter where you are in life and even if you feel you have “ arrived” at your destination (feeling you have succeeded) there still will be that fear or uncertainty within you. So, I might as well make friends with this feeling and leap to take action anyway. “What's the worst scenario” is the question I’d ask myself when confronted with fear - analyze the potential outcome and move forward when my answer is I’m in no harm’s way and the action doesn’t harm another person then it’s worth taking the risks.
I know there’s no shortage of information out there about how to become a more resilient person, however, it’s always easier said than done. I’m here to tell you, consistently working on yourself and making yourself the best version you can be is a life long journey and is the key to your success in changing your mindset for a more prosperous life. I hope you will try some of the tips above and most importantly is sticking to it, you will reap all the benefits.
Sending you all my love,